Sometimes, sexism isn’t loud or overt—it’s the subtle, everyday actions that can slip under the radar.
Many men don’t even realize they’re doing these things, and their intentions are often harmless.
But these small behaviors, while unintentional, can still carry underlying assumptions about gender roles or dismissiveness toward women’s experiences.
I’ve seen this happen in conversations, workplaces, and even casual interactions. It’s not about blaming anyone—it’s about understanding how these subtle habits can impact others.
In this article, we’ll explore seven common behaviors that might seem minor but can come across as mildly sexist. Recognizing these tendencies is the first step toward creating more equitable and respectful relationships.
1) Mansplaining
We’ve all heard the term, but what does mansplaining actually mean?
It’s when a man explains something to a woman in a condescending or overly simplistic way, often assuming she doesn’t already know the topic—even when she might be an expert.
It’s not always intentional, but it can come across as dismissive and frustrating.
Think about a situation where a woman shares her perspective or knowledge, only to have a man interrupt her to explain the same thing in more detail—or worse, incorrectly.
For example, a woman might mention a technical term at work, and a male colleague jumps in to “clarify” it, even though she clearly understands it better. These moments can feel patronizing and undermine her confidence.
What makes mansplaining tricky is that it often happens without malicious intent. Many men genuinely believe they’re being helpful, not realizing how their tone or assumption might come across.
But for women on the receiving end, it can feel like their intelligence or expertise is being questioned.
The best way to avoid mansplaining is to listen before you speak. Ask yourself, Does this person already know what I’m about to say? or Am I assuming they need my input without being asked?
Giving space for women to express themselves without interruption or unnecessary “clarifications” fosters mutual respect and a more balanced dynamic.
This brings me to the next point…
2) ‘Manterrupting’
We’ve all experienced it – being in the middle of a sentence, only to be cut off by someone else who believes their point is more important.
In the world of subtle sexism, this behavior takes on a specific form known as ‘manterrupting‘.
Manterrupting refers to when a man unnecessarily interrupts a woman, often to explain something, regardless of whether he has more knowledge on the subject at hand.
Just like mansplaining, the act may seem harmless in isolation, but it’s a pattern that can undermine a woman’s confidence, making her feel less valued and disregarded.
Men may not even realize they’re doing it. After all, it’s not about intentional disrespect. It’s about ingrained behaviors that we’ve been socialized into.
So, guys, next time you’re in a conversation, take a moment to check yourself.
Are you actually listening or just waiting for your turn to speak? It’s a small change that can make a big difference.
3) Making assumptions based on gender
This one hits close to home. I remember a time when I was at a friend’s place and we were planning a spontaneous road trip.
I, having been on multiple road trips, was excited and started sharing my experiences and suggestions.
However, one of the guys cut me off and said, “Don’t worry about it. We men will handle the driving and directions. You just sit back and enjoy the ride.”
He may not have realized it but his assumption that I couldn’t contribute to the planning because I’m a woman was mildly sexist. It felt as if my experiences and inputs were devalued simply because of my gender.
This kind of behavior isn’t rare. Men often unknowingly make assumptions about what women can or cannot do, based on their gender.
The lesson here is to be aware of our biases and not make assumptions about people’s capabilities based on their gender.
3) Using gendered language
Language is a powerful tool. It can shape our perceptions, guide our thoughts, and reinforce societal norms. And sometimes, it can subtly perpetuate sexism.
Consider the word “bossy.”
Studies show that this term is more frequently used to describe women in leadership roles than men. While a man might be described as assertive or confident, a woman demonstrating the same behavior might be labeled as bossy or aggressive.
This kind of biased language subtly undermines women and perpetuates gender stereotypes.
It’s crucial to be mindful of the words we use and how they may unintentionally contribute to gender bias. Remember, words matter and they can reinforce or challenge stereotypes. So choose them wisely.
4) ‘Benevolent’ sexism
This form of sexism is a bit trickier to identify because it often comes disguised as compliments or chivalrous acts. However, benevolent sexism can be just as harmful as its more overt counterpart.
Take, for instance, the phrase “women are naturally better caregivers”.
At first glance, it might seem like a compliment applauding women’s nurturing nature. But in reality, it boxes women into traditional gender roles and perpetuates the stereotype that caregiving is inherently a woman’s job.
While being polite and considerate is important, it’s crucial to recognize when these actions are based on gender stereotypes.
Always remember, respect and equality should be the underlying principles of our actions, not outdated gender norms.
5) Expectation of emotional labor
There was this one time during a group project when I found myself taking on the role of the ‘peacekeeper’ of the group. Whenever there was a conflict or tension, it was always expected that I would mediate and smooth things over.
This expectation for women to perform emotional labor – to constantly regulate their own emotions and manage others’ – is a subtle form of sexism.
It suggests that women are inherently responsible for maintaining harmony and keeping everyone comfortable, often at the cost of their own comfort.
This expectation not only places an unfair emotional burden on women, but also sends the message that their primary role is to support others rather than to contribute equally.
Men may not realize this expectation exists or that they are contributing to it. The key is to recognize and share emotional responsibilities equally, regardless of gender.
6) Taking up physical space
Have you ever noticed how some people seem to command more space than others? This can happen in public spaces, like on a subway where someone might spread out their legs, encroaching on the space of others.
This behavior, often referred to as ‘manspreading’, is a subtle form of sexism.
While it may seem trivial, taking up more space than necessary can send a powerful message about dominance and entitlement. It suggests that one’s comfort takes precedence over others’, often making those around them feel uncomfortable or even unwelcome.
While it’s important to be comfortable, it’s equally important to be considerate of the shared spaces we occupy with others. Recognizing this behavior and adjusting accordingly can contribute to a more respectful and inclusive environment for all.
7) ‘Not all men’
When discussions about sexism arise, a common defensive response is “not all men”.
While it’s true that not all men engage in sexist behavior, this phrase can unintentionally derail important conversations about sexism and gender inequality.
It shifts the focus from the issue at hand – the systemic sexism women face – to defending individual men.
This response, while understandable, does not contribute to the solution. Instead, it can prevent us from acknowledging and addressing the problem.
The key here isn’t to feel attacked or defensive, but to listen, learn, and strive for change. Remember, acknowledging a problem is the first step to solving it.
Final thought: It’s about awareness
The complexities of gender dynamics are deeply ingrained in our societal fabric.
One of the most pervasive issues we face today is sexism, often subtly manifesting in daily interactions and behaviors.
For men, understanding these subtle forms of sexism isn’t about feeling guilty or defensive, but about fostering awareness. It’s about acknowledging the biases that exist and actively working to challenge them.
The change starts with each one of us questioning our actions, checking our biases, and making a conscious effort to treat everyone with respect and equality.
After all, when it comes to gender equality, every little bit counts.
