Authenticity is about being true to oneself, living in accordance with one’s values, and showing respect for others’ experiences.
As the founder of Hack Spirit and a longtime student of mindfulness and Buddhism, I’ve found that authenticity is not something you can fake. It’s something that shines through a person’s actions, words, and even their silences.
When you spot these eight traits in someone, you can bet they’re the real deal.
These are the signs that someone is truly authentic. Keep reading, and you might just discover some traits that resonate with you too.
1) They’re present in the moment
In a world where distractions are at an all-time high, it’s rare to find someone who is truly present in the moment.
Authentic people, however, have mastered this art. They don’t let their minds wander off to what happened yesterday or what might happen tomorrow. Instead, they are fully engaged in the here and now.
You see, mindfulness is a key trait of authentic people. It’s about experiencing life as it unfolds, without judgment or distraction.
When you’re in conversation with them, they make you feel like you’re the only person in the room. They listen actively, respond thoughtfully and aren’t constantly checking their phone or looking over your shoulder.
This ability to be present shows a genuine interest in others and a deep respect for their time and company.
If you notice someone displaying this trait, know that you’re dealing with someone authentically connected to themselves and the world around them.
2) They’re not afraid to show vulnerability
One of the most profound things I’ve learnt from years of studying Buddhism and mindfulness is that vulnerability is not a weakness, but a strength.
Authentic people understand this. They know that showing vulnerability is about showing their true selves, even if it makes them appear less than perfect.
Brené Brown, a renowned research professor at the University of Houston who has spent her career studying courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy, once said: “Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.”
This quote resonates deeply with me, and it’s something I’ve observed in truly authentic people. They don’t shy away from their flaws or mistakes. Instead, they embrace them as part and parcel of who they are.
3) They practice acceptance
In Buddhism, there’s a profound concept known as “radical acceptance”. It’s about recognizing and accepting things as they are, rather than how we wish them to be.
Authentic people live by this principle. They understand that life is a mixed bag of joy and suffering, success and failure, love and loss. And instead of denying or resisting these realities, they accept them wholeheartedly.
They don’t judge others for their flaws or shortcomings. Nor do they judge themselves harshly for their own. They understand that everyone is on a unique journey with unique challenges.
Acceptance doesn’t mean giving up or becoming complacent. It’s about acknowledging reality without trying to change it or push it away.
This acceptance creates a sense of peace and contentment that shines through in their actions and words. It’s a clear sign of authenticity.
4) They’re mindful of their actions
Mindfulness is not just about being present in the moment. It’s also about being aware of your actions, words, and how they affect others.
Authentic people embody this mindfulness in their daily lives. They think before they speak, consider the consequences of their actions, and strive to make decisions that align with their values and beliefs.
They understand that every action sends out a ripple effect, impacting others in ways they might not even realize. And so, they choose their actions wisely.
In a world that often encourages us to act on impulse, to seek immediate gratification without considering the long-term effects, this mindful approach to life is a refreshing change.
It’s a sign of someone who is truly awake to their impact on the world around them.
5) They live with minimal ego
Ego can be a tricky thing. It can lead us to act in ways that are not in line with our true selves.
Authentic people, however, have managed to keep their egos in check. They don’t let their pride or desire for recognition dictate their actions or decisions. Instead, they act out of genuine care, compassion, and respect for others.
This is something I’ve explored in depth in my book: Hidden Secrets of Buddhism: How To Live With Maximum Impact and Minimum Ego.
In it, I delve into how Buddhism helps us understand the nature of ego and how we can live lives of impact and authenticity by keeping our egos in check.
If you encounter someone who displays humility, who doesn’t strive for recognition or applause but instead focuses on contributing positively to the world around them, chances are they’re an authentic person.
After all, true authenticity comes not from the ego’s need for validation, but from a place of genuine care for others and the world we share.
6) They practice non-attachment
Authentic people understand this principle and incorporate it into their daily lives. They don’t cling to people, possessions, or even their own self-images. They are open to change and are able to let go when something no longer serves them or the greater good.
Non-attachment doesn’t mean being cold or indifferent. It’s about embracing the natural flow of life and not letting our happiness be dependent on external factors.
Authentic people find their joy and peace within themselves, not in material possessions or the opinions of others. They understand that true happiness comes from within and isn’t reliant on external validation.
If you see someone who is content in their own skin, who doesn’t seek happiness from outside sources, but finds it within themselves, you’re likely looking at a truly authentic person.
Their ability to practice non-attachment shows a deep wisdom and understanding of the transient nature of life, a trait that is very much rooted in Buddhist philosophy.
7) They embody compassion
Thich Nhat Hanh, a renowned Vietnamese Buddhist monk and peace activist, once said: “Compassion is a verb.”
Authentic people live this truth. They don’t just feel empathy for others – they take action. They’re there for others in times of need, they lend a listening ear, they offer kind words and deeds.
But their compassion isn’t exclusive to others. They’re also compassionate towards themselves. They understand that everyone makes mistakes, and they treat their own missteps with understanding and forgiveness.
This active practice of compassion makes them approachable and relatable. It’s a clear sign that they’re comfortable with who they are and have a deep understanding of the interconnectedness of all beings.
8) They embrace silence
In today’s fast-paced world, silence can be uncomfortable for many. We’re constantly bombarded with noise, from our devices, the media, and even our own thoughts.
But authentic people understand the power and peace that comes with silence. They’re not afraid of quiet moments. In fact, they embrace them.
Mindfulness teaches us that silence is not empty but full of answers. It’s in those quiet moments that we can truly connect with ourselves and reflect on our experiences.
Authentic people use these moments of silence to gain clarity and peace. They don’t feel the need to fill every moment with chatter or distractions.
If you see someone who is comfortable in silence, who can sit quietly without feeling the urge to speak or do something, know that you’re witnessing a truly authentic person.
Their ability to embrace silence shows a level of self-awareness and inner peace that is rare and admirable. It’s a clear sign of their authenticity and mindfulness.
Conclusion
Authenticity is a trait that shines through actions, words, and silence. It’s a reflection of someone who is deeply connected to themselves and the world around them. It’s about being present, vulnerable, accepting, mindful, humble, non-attached, compassionate and comfortable in silence.
These are not only traits of an authentic person but also key principles of Buddhism and mindfulness – principles that, when embraced, can lead to a life of peace, fulfillment, and genuine connection with others.
If you’re interested in diving deeper into these principles, I invite you to check out my book: Hidden Secrets of Buddhism: How To Live With Maximum Impact and Minimum Ego.
In it, I explore these concepts in more detail and share practical ways to incorporate them into your everyday life.
Authenticity isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being real, being you. And that’s the most beautiful thing you can be.
