Are you starting to feel like something’s off in your relationship?
Respect is one of the core pillars of any healthy partnership, but it’s not always as obvious as you’d think when that foundation starts to crack.
Sometimes, disrespect doesn’t come in loud, dramatic gestures—it shows up in quiet, subtle ways that can easily go unnoticed.
As a relationship expert, I’ve seen it all, and today we’re diving into eight subtle behaviors that might reveal your partner isn’t giving you the respect you deserve.
Let’s shine a light on what you might be missing.
1) They’re constantly correcting you
Few things can be as jarring as a partner who always seems to find a fault in what you say or do. It’s one thing to offer constructive criticism.
It’s entirely another when it feels like they’re always picking at your words or actions.
Not only is this a sign of disrespect, but if the complaints are targeted at your character, it’s also a predictor of divorce.
In a healthy relationship, your partner should respect your opinions and decisions, even if they don’t always agree with them.
It’s about understanding that we all have different perspectives, and it’s these differences that make us unique and interesting.
So next time you notice this subtle behavior, take a moment to reflect. Is it a one-off thing? Or is it a pattern? Because if it’s the latter, there might be a deeper issue at hand.
2) They don’t value your time
In my years as a relationship expert, I’ve seen this one so many times. People waiting endlessly for their partner to show up for dates, or constantly having their plans cancelled at the last minute.
Time is one of the most valuable things we have, and when your partner doesn’t respect it, it’s a clear indication that they’re not showing you the respect you deserve.
Remember the wise words of Benjamin Franklin: “Lost time is never found again.”
Your time is precious, and anyone who truly respects you will understand that.
If your partner is always late or frequently cancels plans, it’s time to have a heartfelt conversation about respect and time management.
After all, a relationship is a two-way street, and both parties need to put in the effort.
3) They don’t celebrate your accomplishments
In my personal life and professional experience, I’ve found that one of the most uplifting things in a relationship is having a partner who is genuinely happy for your successes.
But what if your partner doesn’t seem to share in your joy? What if they downplay your accomplishments, or worse, ignore them altogether?
As the great Oprah Winfrey once said, “Surround yourself only with people who are going to lift you higher.”
And this applies perfectly to relationships.
A partner who respects you will take pride in your achievements. They’ll be there to celebrate with you, and they’ll make you feel valued and appreciated.
4) They dismiss your feelings
One of the most hurtful things in a relationship is when your partner dismisses your feelings. You may feel like you’re overreacting or being too sensitive, but I’m here to tell you that your feelings are valid.
In my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship, I talk in-depth about how important it is for your feelings to be acknowledged in a relationship.
A partner who respects you will take the time to understand your feelings and emotions, even if they don’t initially agree or understand them.
They’ll make an effort to see things from your perspective and will validate your emotions, because they know that your feelings matter.
5) They’re always the victim
Now, this one might sound counterintuitive. After all, if your partner is always playing the victim, doesn’t that mean they’re in need of support, not disrespecting you?
Well, not necessarily.
In a solid relationship, both partners should be able to accept responsibility for their actions and apologize when they’re wrong.
But when your partner is constantly playing the victim, it’s as though they’re saying that everything is your fault and they can do no wrong.
And that’s not respect. That’s manipulation.
By always shifting the blame onto you, they’re subtly undermining your confidence and avoiding taking responsibility for their own actions.
6) They don’t support your dreams
We all have dreams and aspirations, and it’s natural to want to share these with our partner. But what happens when your partner doesn’t support your dreams?
This is something I’ve personally witnessed in many relationships, and it always breaks my heart a little. Because when someone loves you, they should also love and support your ambitions.
If your partner is constantly belittling your dreams or making you feel like they’re unimportant or unattainable, it’s a clear sign of disrespect.
They’re basically saying that they don’t believe in you or value what’s important to you.
In a truly respectful relationship, your partner should be your biggest cheerleader. They should be there to lift you up when you’re down and celebrate your victories with you.
Your dreams matter, and so should they to the person who loves you.
7) They don’t respect your boundaries
Let’s get real for a moment. Boundaries are non-negotiable in any relationship. They are the invisible lines that keep us safe, comfortable, and respected.
But what happens when your partner consistently crosses these lines? When they don’t take your ‘no’ seriously, or they push you into situations you’re uncomfortable with?
I’ll tell you what it is – it’s disrespect, plain and simple.
Your boundaries are a reflection of your values, comfort levels, and personal space. If your partner can’t respect them, they’re essentially dismissing what’s important to you.
8) They make you feel small
Let’s be brutally honest here. In a respectful relationship, your partner should make you feel loved, cherished, and important.
But if they’re making you feel small, insignificant, or worthless, that’s a huge red flag.
Whether it’s through condescending comments, controlling behavior, or making you feel like you’re always in their shadow, these are all signs of disrespect.
It’s one thing to have disagreements or arguments. It’s another thing entirely to belittle or demean your partner. This kind of behavior is not only disrespectful, it’s also emotionally abusive.
You deserve to be with someone who makes you feel like the amazing person you are. Don’t settle for anything less.
Conclusion
Recognizing signs of disrespect in a relationship can be tough, especially when they’re as subtle as the ones we’ve discussed.
But remember, you deserve to be treated with kindness, empathy, and above all, respect.
If you’ve identified with any of these signs, it’s time to have an honest conversation with your partner. And if things don’t change, know that it’s okay to prioritize your well-being and consider your options.
For more advice on dealing with these situations, you can check out my book Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship.
It’s filled with practical tips and strategies to help you navigate through complex relationship issues.
As always, I hope you found some value in this post. Stay strong!
