Hey there! You know, it can be pretty tough to notice when someone’s feeling a little off course—especially when it’s a guy who seems like he should have it all together.
Society has this way of expecting men to always have a plan, but sometimes, even the best of us end up feeling a bit lost.
That’s why I wanted to talk about this today. Let’s dive into some of the subtle signs that a man might be searching for his true purpose.
They’re easy to miss, but recognizing them can make all the difference. After all, we all need a little clarity and direction now and then, don’t we?
You might just find some helpful insights for yourself—or someone you care about.
1) Lack of passion
Ever known someone who just seems to be going through the motions? You ask about their work, their hobbies, and they respond with little more than a shrug. It’s like there’s no spark, no fire.
This could be a sign that they’re not doing what they love. They haven’t found that thing that gets them up in the morning, excited to start the day.
When a man is engaged with his true calling, his passion is palpable. If that’s missing, he might just be lost.
2) He’s constantly switching jobs
Now, I’ve had a friend, let’s call him John. Nice guy, but never seemed to stick with a job for long.
One day he’s a marketing executive, the next he’s trying his hand at graphic design.
It wasn’t that he was bad at these jobs. The problem was, he never seemed satisfied. He was always looking for something else, something more.
It took him a while to realize that his constant job-hopping was a sign that he hadn’t found his true calling yet.
So if you see a guy constantly changing careers, it could mean he’s still searching for his purpose.
3) He’s always busy, but unfulfilled
You’ve probably heard the saying “Busy is the new happy“. But it doesn’t always add up that way.
Some people stay busy to distract themselves from the fact that they’re not truly content.
Individuals who perceive a misalignment between their job and their true calling often report higher levels of stress and job dissatisfaction.
If a man is always on the go but seems perpetually unsatisfied, it might be because he’s yet to find his real passion in life.
4) He’s easily knocked down
Life can be tough, right? We all face challenges and setbacks. But it’s how we respond to these obstacles that defines us.
Now, if a man seems to lack resilience, to struggle to bounce back after a setback, it might be a sign he’s not on his true path.
In my book, “The Art of Resilience: A Practical Guide to Developing Mental Toughness“, I talk about how resilience isn’t just about toughing it out. It’s about finding the strength in understanding your emotions, in learning and growth.
When a man has found his true calling, he has more resilience because he is motivated by a deep-rooted passion and purpose.
If someone is easily disheartened or defeated, it may mean that they’re not engaged with their true calling, and they’re still searching for what truly drives them.
5) He avoids talking about the future
I remember a time when planning for the future felt like a daunting task. It was almost as if I was afraid to think too far ahead because I wasn’t sure where my path was leading.
If a man is vague or avoids discussing his future goals and plans, it could be because he’s unsure of his direction. When you’ve found your true calling, you can envision your future with excitement and clarity.
But when you’re lost, the future can seem uncertain and intimidating, making it difficult to lay out any solid plans.
6) He seems disconnected
Ever noticed how some people seem to be just going through the motions? They’re present, but not really engaged or connected. This could be a sign that a man hasn’t found his true calling.
When we’re living our purpose, we’re fully invested in what we’re doing. We feel a deep connection to our work and our life.
But when a man hasn’t found his true calling, he might seem detached or disengaged, as if he’s just floating through life without a real sense of direction or purpose.
7) He’s afraid of taking risks
I’ve been there myself, teetering on the edge of a big decision, feeling the fear of the unknown. It’s natural. But sometimes, a fear of taking risks can indicate that a man is not on his true path.
When you’ve found your calling, you’re generally more willing to take risks for it. You know the stakes, but you also know the reward is worth the gamble.
If a man is overly cautious or hesitant about taking risks, it might be because he hasn’t found that thing that makes stepping out of his comfort zone worthwhile.
8) He’s successful, but unhappy
This might sound a bit counter-intuitive, but success doesn’t always equate to finding your true calling. Sometimes, a man can achieve all the traditional markers of success – a good job, financial stability, even recognition – but still feel unfulfilled.
It’s because success and fulfillment are two different things. You can have all the outward trappings of success but if what you’re doing doesn’t align with your true purpose, it can leave you feeling empty and unsatisfied.
There’s a fundamental level of happiness that comes from knowing you’re living your purpose.
So, at the end of the day, it all comes down to this. Is he truly happy? Because when a man has found his true calling, he feels a deep sense of satisfaction and joy.
Final thoughts: It’s about the journey
Life, in many ways, is a journey of discovery. It’s about figuring out who we are, what we stand for, and most importantly, what brings us joy and fulfillment.
For some men, the path to discovering their true calling may be clear and straightforward. For others, it might be a winding road filled with twists and turns.
But here’s the thing – it’s okay. It’s okay to be lost. It’s okay to not have all the answers yet. And it’s okay to keep searching until you find what truly resonates with you.
In my book “The Art of Resilience: A Practical Guide to Developing Mental Toughness“, I delve into how resilience and mental toughness can be incredibly useful tools in navigating life’s complexities and finding your true path.
So if you or someone you know is showing signs of being lost, remember this – the journey towards finding one’s true calling isn’t always easy.
But it is a journey worth undertaking. Because when you finally align with your true purpose, every struggle along the way will have been worth it.
So keep exploring. Keep questioning. Keep growing. Your true calling awaits.
