Ever heard the saying, “Age is just a number?”
Well, the folks who are rocking their 70s, 80s and beyond with unbridled joy and vigor would certainly agree.
But what’s their secret?
The truth is, they’ve likely kicked some habits to the curb that most of us are still holding on to. Habits that, in reality, might be sucking the life and joy out of our golden years.
If you’re wondering, “How can I maintain my energy and enthusiasm as I age?” you’re in the right place. We’re about to dive into seven habits that those living their best lives in old age have bid farewell to.
Remember, it’s never too late to make positive changes. After all, as we grow older, it’s about adding life to our years, not just years to our life.
So, let’s explore these habits together and take the first steps towards a more vibrant and joyful future.
1) Letting go of grudges
Holding onto grudges is like carrying a heavy backpack around with you, everywhere you go. It’s exhausting, isn’t it?
Those who remain energetic and joyful into their later years have learnt the art of forgiveness.
They’ve realized the immense freedom that comes from letting go of past hurts and disappointments.
They understand that holding onto anger and resentment doesn’t punish the person who wronged them, but instead, it takes a toll on their own peace of mind and well-being.
They consciously choose to forgive, not because the other person deserves forgiveness, but because they deserve peace.
You too can make this choice. Forgiveness is not a sign of weakness. It’s a sign of strength.
Why not start today? Lighten your load. Let go of past grudges. Say hello to a happier and more vibrant you.
2) Avoiding physical activity
Now, let me be honest here. I wasn’t always the most active person.
A few years back, my idea of a fun evening involved a good book and a cozy couch. The thought of exercise was, well, exhausting.
But as I observed my energetic 70-year-old neighbor jogging every morning, I felt a pang of envy. Her radiant smile and zest for life were truly inspiring.
One day, I decided to join her. And let me tell you, it wasn’t easy. I huffed and puffed and struggled to keep up with her pace.
But fast forward to today, I can’t imagine starting my day without a good sweat session. The energy and positivity it brings to my day is incredible.
Those who stay joyful and energetic in their 70s and beyond know the importance of regular physical activity.
They’ve said goodbye to the sedentary lifestyle that’s all too common in our modern world.
They don’t view exercise as a chore but as an opportunity to boost their mood, energy and overall health.
It’s their secret weapon for maintaining vitality as they age.
You don’t need to run a marathon or bench press your body weight. Just find something you enjoy – be it dancing, walking or yoga – and make it a part of your daily routine.
3) Comparing themselves to others
Ever caught yourself scrolling through social media, comparing your life to the highlight reel of others?
I’ve been there.
You see your old school friend vacationing in exotic locations, your cousin with their picture-perfect family, or your neighbour flaunting their shiny new car.
Before you know it, you’re spiralling down a rabbit hole of comparison and self-doubt.
But here’s what I’ve learned from those who are aging gracefully and joyfully: They’ve given up this habit of comparison.
They’ve understood that everyone is on their own unique journey. That there’s no fixed timeline for success, happiness, or fulfillment.
They know that comparison only steals joy and creates unnecessary stress.
Instead, they focus on their own growth, their own happiness. They celebrate their achievements, however small they may seem.
They appreciate the beauty of their individual journey and find joy in their own progress.
Remember this: The only person you should strive to be better than is the person you were yesterday.
4) Neglecting self-care
Self-care is not a luxury. It’s a necessity.
Those who remain joyful and energetic in their later years have understood this fact very well.
They’ve moved past the misconception that taking time for themselves is selfish or unproductive.
They’ve said goodbye to the habit of constantly putting others’ needs before their own, of neglecting their own well-being while trying to take care of everyone else.
They realize that they can’t pour from an empty cup.
They know that taking care of their own physical, mental and emotional health is crucial for them to be able to give their best to others.
They make time for activities that rejuvenate them. It could be a relaxing bath, a quiet walk in the park, a yoga session or simply a few moments of mindfulness.
They listen to their bodies, respect their limits and prioritize rest.
It’s never too late to start practicing self-care. Start small, but start today.
Prioritize yourself, because you matter. And when you take care of yourself, you’re better equipped to bring joy and energy into your life and the lives of those around you.
5) Ignoring their passion
Did you know that people who regularly engage in activities they are passionate about are more likely to be happier and healthier?
Those who stay joyful and energetic into their 70s and beyond have harnessed the power of passion.
They’ve bid adieu to the habit of suppressing their interests and passions due to societal norms, fear of judgement, or lack of time.
They understand that engaging in activities they love not only brings joy but also keeps their minds sharp, strengthens their sense of purpose and fosters a positive outlook on life.
They could be painting, gardening, knitting, hiking or playing a musical instrument.
It could literally be anything that makes their heart sing.
It’s time for you to reconnect with that hobby you’ve always loved but never found time for. Or maybe discover a new one.
It’s not about being perfect at it. It’s about enjoying it. It’s about letting your passion light up your life and keep that spark in you alive.
6) Being too hard on themselves
We all make mistakes. We all have our share of failures and disappointments.
Yet, many of us have this habit of beating ourselves up over every little mistake. We set unrealistically high standards for ourselves, and when we fail to meet them, we plunge into self-criticism.
But those who stay joyful and energetic in their 70s and beyond have learned to be kinder to themselves.
They’ve given up the habit of self-criticism and replaced it with self-compassion.
They understand that everyone stumbles, everyone has flaws. They look upon their mistakes not as failures but as opportunities to learn and grow.
They practice self-compassion, acknowledging their feelings without judgment and treating themselves with kindness and understanding in times of failure or when they feel inadequate.
And you can do this too. Next time you stumble, instead of criticizing yourself, try to speak to yourself as you would to a dear friend.
Be kind, be understanding, be patient with yourself.
7) Refusing to adapt to change
Change is an inevitable part of life. Yet, many of us resist it, fearing the unknown and the discomfort that comes with it.
But those who stay joyful and energetic in their 70s and beyond have embraced change.
They’ve let go of the habit of resisting change and fearing the unknown.
They understand that change, though uncomfortable at times, is often the catalyst for growth and new opportunities.
They see change not as a threat but as an adventure, a chance to learn, grow and explore new horizons.
Instead of resisting change, embrace it. See it as an opportunity for personal growth and self-discovery.
Embrace the journey
If you recognize some of these habits in your own life, don’t worry. You’re human and habits can be tricky to break.
But here’s the beautiful thing – you have the power to change.
With self-awareness and deliberate action, these habits can be transformed.
You can make the choice to let go of what no longer serves your joy and vitality.
Begin by acknowledging these habits. Notice when you’re holding on to a grudge, neglecting self-care, or resisting change.
Pay attention to when you’re too hard on yourself or ignoring your passion.
Once you see these patterns, it gets easier to intervene and make a different choice.
Ask yourself – is this habit serving my joy and energy? Does holding on to this align with the person I aspire to be? Would letting go allow me to live more fully?
Breaking habits won’t happen overnight. It’s a process.
But with consistent awareness and effort, you can shift your behavior. Each small step towards letting go is a victory.
Be patient with yourself. Celebrate every step forward. Embrace the adventure that is aging with vitality and joy.
After all, age is just a number, isn’t it?
